Every single choice takes us there I used to get very anxious about the outcomes of my choices. I have sat with regret one too many times. I have mourned what could have beens. But recently I had a thought that took me to a more pleasing state of being. I was pondering the idea of what's meant for us versus our freedom to choose. How do we 'make sure' we achieve something? Why should we even 'make sure' we get it if it's written for us? How does that measure against our freedom to choose our...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Pause March 27, 2026 Nowhere to go. No one to be. I thought about this recently — and wanted to share it with you. — I often think about how fast we move sometimes. About all the things we put on our to do list. I often think about how tired we get at the end of the day. Often from dealing with nothing meaningful in particular. Someone else's deadlines. Schedules that aren't forgiving. It would be nice to create little pockets of time where we have nowhere to go — and no one to be. Nobody...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Pause March 27, 2026 The courage to use our voice How rare it is to find a woman who speaks her mind with ease.How rare it is to feel comfortable hearing ourselves. This is something I noticed when I began writing. When I first started—while working on a research paper on reflective writing—I was analysing my own practice. I kept a month’s worth of writing for the study, and when I looked back, I noticed something. I was mainly writing about the things I could not say out loud. I looked back...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Pause March 20, 2026 We paused, wrote, and reflected What a privilege it was to run a workshop for the team at CelcomDigi on 10 March 2026. In conjunction with International Women's Day 2026, we paused, wrote, and reflected. Isn’t it interesting—we often see our colleagues as just that: colleagues. But there are other dimensions to them. I love seeing those walls soften, even just a little, in a Pause session. The moment we begin to see each other as human. Someone who doesn’t just owe you...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I hope this long email isn’t catching you at a bad time.I wanted Pause’s first newsletter to feel worthwhile.Read it whenever you have the space. No rush. I’m writing this on paper because it’s one of the few ways I become present with myself. That’s why I keep returning to pen and paper. There was a time I couldn’t hear my own voice.I struggled to navigate the world, make sense of things, or even make a simple decision. I’m slightly better at these now.And I want to bring you...
6 months ago • 2 min read