Every single choice takes us there

I used to get very anxious about the outcomes of my choices. I have sat with regret one too many times. I have mourned what could have beens.

But recently I had a thought that took me to a more pleasing state of being. I was pondering the idea of what's meant for us versus our freedom to choose. How do we 'make sure' we achieve something? Why should we even 'make sure' we get it if it's written for us? How does that measure against our freedom to choose our next step?

It is that every choice we make leads us there. It is not one single choice. It is certainly not about avoiding mistakes at all costs. Through this lens, the things we regret also lead us to what is meant for us.

This aligns well with the idea that what is meant for us never passes us by.

The path that leads us to the life we envision is not just one path. It is every path.

We can therefore loosen our grip on the steering wheel. And soften our minds from strategising and planning too hard.

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A simple practice:

Take a moment to notice where you're feeling regret or heaviness about a choice you've perhaps just made. Or a choice you made once upon a time. Maybe it still doesn't sit well with you.

With your hand on your heart, tell yourself: I have not ruined anything. Every choice takes me where I want to be.

And if you find yourself frozen at a decision right now — afraid that getting it wrong might ruin everything — place your hand on your heart again.

I could not ruin it all. I do not have that kind of power. I have the freedom to choose, but I am not alone in shaping my path.

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Take a deep breath. You have not ruined things because of that one decision. You are certainly not behind.

As they say — you are right on time.

Because every step is part of the design.

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